the centering effect

Before Sunrise and Before Sunset have been formative films for me and in Before Sunset, Ethan Hawke describes his marriage as "feeling like he is running a small day care with someone he used to date." It is a battle to fight this feeling. Geoff and I are both working at counselors at the kids'camps. We both worked as camp counselors in college at the same camp. We would wave to eachother at meals and try to synchronize our break periods. It is not so different now. We have to carve out time to be at the same place simultaneously. "Let's meet in the kitchen at 9 to pack lunches together." Or "Meet me at the dryer after you do show him how to do that cat's cradle trick."

Having taken that trip, which has been a few weeks ago now, has seriously had a centering effect on things. We'll be discussing something stressful and we'll joke, "Hey, remember me, I hung out with you in Puerto Rico?" It seems to have this effect that when we ARE together, there is this giddy and illicit joy. All six of us napped this afternoon. I woke first and went to cut tomatoes in the kitchen and when Geoff descended the stairs, the two of us alone in the silence, it simply took my breath away.